Family: A Potential Healing & Powerful Aid in Eating Disorder Recovery

Helpful Family Involvement with family walking on a beach

At Eating Disorder Hope, we recognize how essential the family is to eating disorder recovery. Our loved ones are the best source of support and help as we navigate the sometimes choppy waters of recovery from disordered eating and eating disorders.

As a therapist, nutritionist and as mothers’ ourselves, we are profoundly aware of the deep love a mother has for her child and our fierce desire to protect and nurture our precious son or daughter. In practice, we have often witnessed mothers giving every essence of their being to help their child recover from anorexia, bulimia or binge eating disorder.

Parents have gladly sacrificed time, money, energy to support their loved ones.

Mothers, Fathers, Siblings, Family

We have also witnessed many deeply caring and supportive fathers devoted to helping their beloved child in eating disorder recovery. It has been heartwarming to observe the intense love and desire to protect and help their children flourish that most fathers I have encountered demonstrate.

Siblings? Amazing resource for support, encouragement, and love. I have spent hours on the phone with distressed brothers and sisters who want nothing more than to help their dear sibling recover. They are willing to do almost anything to restore the health and well-being of their family member.

They hurt deeply and yet push through their pain to help the one they love.

Multiple Factors Are at Play in Eating Disorder Recovery

two girls waling in eating disorder recoveryWe know that eating disorders are complex and that multiple factors can lead to the development and maintenance of an eating disorder.

A well-known concept in the field of eating disorder treatment is that “Genetics load the gun and Environment pulls the trigger”.


Much of the etiology can be credited to biology: genetic predisposition, tendency towards depression, anxiety and other mood disorders.

Research has also demonstrated how genetics play a major role in the development of eating disorders, likely contributing to a range of personality traits that put people at risk, including:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • “People-pleasing” behaviors
  • Perfectionism
  • Obsessiveness [1]

Studies have shown that these personality traits are heritable, signifying that they are risk factors for eating disorders, such as anorexia [2]. The neurobiology and genetic makeup of an individual are substantial factors that make a person more susceptible to developing eating disorders.

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The Environment

Couple this with an environment that worships thinness and media that constantly bombards us all with airbrushed images of seemingly perfectly formed, toned and impossibly lean bodies and you have a lot of contributing environmental factors.

This also includes other psychological and sociocultural factors, and the interactions between them, that create and increase susceptibility to eating disorders.

How the Family Can Contribute to Both

Another aspect of the environment, beyond the media, is the social and familial environment that we grow up in.

For example, if dieting is stressed and poor body image exemplified by family or social ties in the community, this is another environmental factor that can lead to disordered eating or anorexia, bulimia or binge eating disorder.

Single Factors Are Rarely Enough to Trigger an Eating Disorder

prom-370165_640The development and maintenance of an eating disorder have many potential contributing factors. Time and again, researchers have solidified the fact that there is NO single factor that has been shown for causing eating disorders, such as anorexia or bulimia, but rather, is an interaction of biological, genetic, sociocultural, and psychological factors.

Genetics alone cannot account for the development of eating disorders.

Through research, we can understand that the aspects of eating disorders that are transmitted genetically are also linked with non-genetic effects (including family, cultural, psychological and social components) which have been shown to influence susceptibility to eating disorders [1,3-6].

The Family’s Influence on Eating Disorder Recovery: What We Know

What we do know about families and eating disorders is this:

Families have the potential to be an important part of the healing process and eating disorder recovery. If injurious family factors have the potential to trigger genetic susceptibility in individuals, perhaps positive family behaviors can be restored and promoted for treatment and prevention.

Correlations of familial, societal, and cultural factors do not translate to the causation of eating disorders but rather give us clues to understand treatment and prevention methods that can improve the prognosis of individuals suffering from these diseases.

This includes family-based behavioral therapies, as well as other evidence-based treatments, that integrate and empower parents and other family members in the recovery process from an eating disorder [7].

What Research Has Found

Two ladies talking about eating disorder recoveryResearch findings that focus on familial factors are not intended to cast blame or portray the image that family influences are seen as the primary cause of eating disorders but are meant to be understood in the full context of what has been discovered about the development of eating disorders.

As an eating disorder community, it is imperative that we focus on this crucial goal of empowering and supporting one another along this journey of eating disorder recovery.

Many of us are in this community because we ourselves have suffered through an eating disorder personally, we have witnessed first-hand the destructiveness of a family member or friend who has suffered, or we want to be a part of the solution.

Universal Support Is Key

Tearing each other down rather than having meaningful and productive conversations is not part of the solution and only distracting from making progress in this area or deterring others from finding the help and resources they need.

As an organization, Eating Disorder Hope does not support the idea that families are to be blamed for their child’s illness, nor is this our viewpoint.

Rather it is our mission to connect those who are suffering to the treatment they so desperately need, to help reunite and support families as they navigate through the many trials that are involved with eating disorders.

About the authors:

Jacquelyn EkernJacquelyn Ekern, MS, LPC founded Eating Disorder Hope in 2005, driven by a profound desire to help those struggling with anorexia, bulimia and binge-eating disorder. This passion resulted from her battle with, and recovery from, an eating disorder. As president, Jacquelyn manages Ekern Enterprises, Inc. and the Eating Disorder Hope website. In addition, she is a fully licensed therapist with a closed private counseling practice specializing in the treatment of eating disorders.

Jacquelyn has a Bachelor of Science in Human Services degree from The University of Phoenix and a Masters degree in Counseling/Psychology, from Capella University. She has extensive experience in the eating disorder field including advanced education in psychology, participation and contributions to additional eating disorder groups, symposiums, and professional associations. She is a member of the National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA), Academy of Eating Disorders (AED), the Eating Disorders Coalition (EDC) and the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp).

Jacquelyn enjoys art, working out, walking her golden retriever “Cowgirl”, reading, painting and time with family.
Although Eating Disorder Hope was founded by Jacquelyn Ekern, this organization would not be possible without support from our generous sponsors.

Crystal Headshot 2Crystal Karges, MS, RDN, IBCLC is a Contributing Writer for Eating Disorder Hope.

Crystal is a Masters-level Registered Dietitian Nutritionist (RDN) with a specialty focus in eating disorders, maternal/child health and wellness, and intuitive eating. Combining clinical experience with a love of social media and writing,

As a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, Crystal has dedicated her career to helping others establish a healthy relationship with food and body through her work with EDH and nutrition private practice.


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Last Updated & Reviewed By: Jacquelyn Ekern, MS, LPC on August 2, 2017
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About Baxter Ekern

Baxter is the Vice President of Ekern Enterprises, Inc. He is responsible for the operations of Eating Disorder Hope and ensuring that the website is functioning smoothly.