“Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.”
— Anne Wilson Schaef
Many of us in the eating disorder community are well-acquainted with perfectionism. The practice of perfectionism has taught us to drive ourselves relentlessly toward the goal with little to no compassion for ourselves. We end up seeking our value in external approval while finding we have become vacuously detached from our inner selves, feelings, and needs.
Recovery from an eating disorder requires the development of a conscious appreciation of ourselves as an entirely unique being who is deserving of self-respect, self-love, and self-compassion, regardless of what we look like, what we achieve, or the level of approval we receive from others.
Ten Commandments for the Recovering Perfectionist
Consider implementing these commandments into your plan of eating disorder recovery.
- Thou shall be real.
- Thou shall accept oneself.
- Thou shall let oneself make mistakes.
- Thou shall not judge oneself harshly.
- Thou shall respect oneself.
- Thou shall not worry about what others think of oneself.
- Thou shall be gentle and compassionate with oneself.
- Thou shall treat oneself with dignity.
- Thou shall practice unconditional self-love.
- Thou shall not compare oneself with another’s strengths, attributes, or performance.
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