I Know I will Get There – Deb’s Story
Contributor: Deb, guest contributor to Eating Disorder Hope
English is not my first language, to write my story in English, is not easy. Just call me Deb, I am 20 years old and still studying to complete my senior year in high school.
My eating issues started back when I was ten. I always had trouble with bullying, since I was in primary school, and the worst was at age ten.
I never considered myself a happy teenager. However, I am much happier now compared to my life with an eating disorder.
There was one incident at school that led me to be suspended for three months. I was depressed and suicidal, I decided that by losing weight people would like me and accept me.
I started with cutting down snacks until I was only drinking water. My weight dropped like crazy to a very dangerous level.
My loved ones would be really angry with me for not eating and for my excessive exercising. I used to do run on the treadmill at home for more than four hours a day. I also walked around the house. The only time I was sitting down was during breakfast, lunch and dinner. I would wake up at 2:00 AM every morning to do extra hours of treadmill.
I was trapped in my mind. I lost myself. I couldn’t think about anything other than my eating disorder. After those three months of being suspended, I came back to school when my weight had improved. The people that used to bully me complimented that I looked better, but then they would laugh behind my back.
That motivated me to lose more weight. I used eating and limiting my calories as the control mechanism for me to suppress my depression and traumatic experiences. I tried to commit suicide a couple of times. I went to see a dietitian and she asked me to gain weight. My weight has been like a yoyo, up and down.
My recovery journey started while I was studying in Australia for the first time. I was very underweight, and during the winter I fainted while walking back to the boarding house. The boarding house rang the ambulance and they sent me to the hospital.
On the way to the hospital they gave me a glucose injection, my sugar level was very low. In the hospital I woke up and my parents took me back to the hotel. The next day we went to see the school general practitioner and she told me I had Anorexia Nervosa.
Based on my weight, my school sent me back home with the condition that I could come back once my weight was in normal range.
That is when my binging period started. After all of the binging and cheating I managed to get back to school, but after only three weeks I decided that I couldn’t stay anymore. I need inpatient treatment.
I went to the clinic in Sydney but ran away after one week after the psychiatrist told me the amount of weight I needed to gain. I went back to Indonesia and continued my eating disordered behavior until one day I realized that I was tired of this and I really needed to get better.
I admitted myself into a hospital in Singapore to get treatment with my eating disorder. They helped me to gain back my weight and normalized my eating habit. Mid 2013 was the first time I was in recovery.
Since then, there were a couple of relapses while I was studying in Australia, but I am getting stronger and stronger. Anorexia made me lose five years of my education time. I am now the oldest student at my school, I am still fighting to finish my education.
My eating disorder is getting so much better, even though I still have a few more pounds to gain. I know, and I believe, I will get there.
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