David Krueger, M.D. mentors executives and professionals to write the next chapter of their life or business stories. His approach integrates the insights of psychology, neuroscience, and professional coaching to help clients move to new levels of mastery. Author of fifteen trade and professional books on success, work, money, and self-development, his coaching and writing focus on the art and science of success strategies: mind over matters.
Dr. Krueger formerly practiced and taught Psychiatry and Psychoanalysis and was Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Baylor College of Medicine. He was listed in The Best Doctors in America (Woodward/White, Inc. Publishers) annually from 1996-2002. He was the Founder and Director of an award winning Eating Disorders treatment program for twelve years. He founded and served as the CEO to two healthcare corporations in Houston, Texas.
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WRITING A NEW STORY Contributions to Recovery from Professional Coaching
Question: There is much publicity and discussion of the film, The Secret. Are there applications of the Law of Attraction to Professional Coaching?
Response: Absolutely. The Law of Attraction is based in neuroscience. Where you focus your attention, your brain makes connections. Your mind is an energy field and responds to focus.
Neuroscientists call this neuroplasticity. Focused attention plays a crucial role in actually altering the structure of the brain. Stimulating environments, especially when coupled with structured repetitive activity (like coaching), lead to more brain connections being formed and expanded levels of functioning. Simply put, this means that focusing attention in constructive ways changes your brain.
This concept offers explanation at a brain level for why a solution focus is more effective than a problem focus. These brain connections literally become mind-maps, and subsequently influence the reality that we see.
Focusing on solutions creates new neuronal networks and pathways, while focusing on problems deepens—further etches—the already existing circuitry. The paradox can be that we do not attract what we want, but we attract what we focus on. Everyone wants more money, so wanting is not the key to having it. Focusing on scarcity attracts scarcity. Focusing on prosperity aligns your energy to pursue prosperity. Your unconscious doesn't register positive or negative—just the focus. A print or negative is the same image; your unconscious is the image.
The power of focus: whatever you attend to or focus on, you bring about.
- "I want to get out of debt." The focus is on debt.
- "I don't want any more problems." The focus is on problems.
The Law of Attraction won't give you what you want just because you believe it—it will give you the energy to sustain the process to create what you want. It won't send a Brinks truck up your driveway, or align the Lotto balls for you. But you can align your internal molecules by focus and purpose to point to specific goals. It's a way to use your power to write the story you want.
So here's the real secret behind the film The Secret: strategic action: There are people who need to be taught how to believe—how to believe:
- Specifically
- Strategically
- Systematically
- Consistently
This is exactly what Professional Coaches do.
Question: Most of the people I've worked with lose their steam after a few sessions because they believe "it's too difficult" to make the changes they believe will help them. What do you suggest?
Response: Changing behavior is difficult. Even when it means the difference between life and death. In studies of coronary bypass patients, when their lives are at risk unless they adopt healthier lifestyles, how many do you think change their habits? Only one in nine.
One reason that people resist change, even in the face of recognizing a need, is that they do not feel safe changing. A fundamental mindset that we each have is the internal model of who we are, and how we relate to the rest of the world. Our identity. This personal story of reality keeps us safe and makes the world explainable. It offers continuity day to day. This is why we adhere to this map of reality even when the results create limitations or unhappiness.
That map is etched in our brain circuits, adding to the perception that this is just the way things are. Our concept is that if we keep our internal map the same, we will be safe with the familiar.
When you plan in one side of the brain and feel in the other, a map is necessary to balance the two and give direction and purpose.
People resist change because they stay in a comfort zone. Or return to it. Think of your comfort zone as like your home thermostat. If the temperature increases or decreases, the thermostat signals the heater or air conditioner to turn on or off. It keeps the temperature in a narrow range of comfort.
Clients hit plateaus in new endeavors after 1-2 months. Why? Because different brain chemicals are involved in the beginning than a bit later. In anticipating reward—or positive change—dopamine is released, inducing excitement. When change actually unfolds, this shuts down the anticipatory release of dopamine, and along with it the accompanying positive feelings and high energy. This explains the paradox that the expectation of an event is more exciting than the actual event.
As a professional, remember three key elements in working with resistance to change:
- Your clients or patients are doing a good job of showing you exactly what it's like to be them by bringing it alive in the work with you—this means that their resistances are information and a crucial part of the work—not something to get beyond and get back to work.
- Don't take it personally
- There is an art and science to facilitating change—both the mind and brain are involved in changing behavior. We are the guide—the cartographer—for someone's journey. We need a philosophy of change in order to successfully guide our clients to navigate the changes in their lives and businesses.
Professional Coaching is distinctly different from counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis; it does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems.